Self-love is the ultimate form of self-care. And practising self-love with your body is no different. After all, taking care of yourself is essential for your well-being and pleasure. While it may take some getting used to for the shy, exploring solo can be empowering and fulfilling, not to mention confidence-building. We've compiled some expert tips on self-pleasure and embracing your sensuality. No need to tread with caution either.
Set the Mood
Creating the right environment can make a significant difference in your self-pleasure experience. Soft lighting, calming music, and your favorite scents can help you relax and get in the mood. Think of it as setting up a date night, but this time, it’s all about you.
Take Your Time
There’s no rush when it comes to self-pleasure. Take the time to explore your body and discover what feels good. Focus on the sensations and allow yourself to fully enjoy the experience without any pressure. As Dr. Laurie Mintz, author of "Becoming Cliterate," suggests, "Allow yourself time to explore. The goal is to find out what is best for you" (Psychology Today).
Use a Mirror
Watching yourself in the mirror can enhance your experience and help you connect with your body on a deeper level. It can be incredibly empowering to see yourself in a state of pleasure and can help you appreciate your body more.
Try Different Techniques
Experimenting with different strokes, pressures, and rhythms can help you find what you enjoy most. Every body is unique, so take the time to explore various techniques to see what works best for you.
Incorporate Lubricant
Using a lubricant can greatly enhance the sensation and make the experience more comfortable. ASTROGLIDE offers a variety of lubricants to suit your needs, whether you prefer water-based, silicone-based, or organic options. Dr Jess O’Reilly, ASTROGLIDE's resident sexologist, explains, "If you’re relying solely on stimulating yourself with your hands, you may opt for a water-based liquid lube like ASTROGLIDE Liquid." (Astroglide)
Embrace Toys
Toys can add variety and excitement to your solo play. Whether you’re new to toys or a seasoned user, there’s something out there for everyone. Choose a toy that suits your preferences and enjoy the added stimulation. ASTROGLIDE’s resident sexologist, Dr Jess O’Reilly says, “Sex toy use is associated with a range of benefits including increased sexual functioning and sexual pleasure. Those who use sexual accoutrements, such as sex toys and lube, report higher sexual functioning and greater sexual satisfaction. (Astroglide).
Practice Self-Compassion
Self-love isn’t just about physical pleasure; it’s also about being kind to yourself. Celebrate your body and practice self-compassion. Remember that taking time for yourself is an important part of overall wellness. Dr Joy Berkheimer, LMFT, PhD, Relationship Expert & Sexologist, highlights, “Self-love is the best love. Don’t be afraid to explore and validate the experience as much as you would any other” (Essence).
Create a Self-Love Routine
Incorporating self-love into your routine can have numerous benefits for your mental and physical health. Regularly taking time to explore your sensuality can boost your confidence, improve your mood, and help you feel more connected to your body. According to Dr Justin Lehmiller, ASTROGLIDE's Resident Sex Researcher, "Masturbation is thus a multi-purpose activity that can help us to meet a wide range of psychological needs in a way that can help bolster our mental health." (Astroglide)