Swinging 101 – A Field Guide for the Actually Curious

Posted By The ASTROGLIDE Team  
17/10/2025

(A not-so-secret diary from one nosy Aussie who slipped on the brave undies, packed a bottle of ASTROGLIDE and went venue-hopping around the country)

Why I went looking

I blamed lockdown boredom at first, but the truth is I’d always wondered what really happens once the dress-down bell rings. Do people stand around awkwardly? Is everyone movie-star hot? (Spoiler: bodies come in every delightful shape.) So I set myself a mission—four weekends, five capital cities, one carry-on bag full of condoms and lube—and promised to report back with zero sugar-coating.

1. Do the prep before you do the deed

Talk it out. Sit with your partner, a glass of pinot and ruthlessly honest questions: What turns us on? What turns us off? Hard no’s? It’s awkward for about seven minutes, then wildly freeing.

Pack the kit.

  • Condoms (multiple sizes)

  • Two towels (one always goes missing)

  • Baby wipes

  • Flip-flops for spa areas

  • Lube:

Learn the code. Ask first, touch later. Dress to theme. Phones stay locked away unless the host says otherwise. Boundaries can change mid-scene—check in often.

2. Melbourne: Australia’s Unofficial Swinging Capital

A single Friday night can offer three totally different flavours. Pick your mood:

Shed 16 & Peninsula Sauna, Seaford

  • Vibe: Spa-steam meets dungeon chic.
  • Need-to-know: Couples night every Friday, mixed crowd Saturdays. The on-site sauna lets you soak, shower, then glide straight into the playrooms—handy when you’re re-lube-ing between rounds.
  • Find it: Listed on the Australian Swingers Directory.

Between Friends Wine Bar, Balaclava

  • Vibe: Start civilised with tapas and Barossa shiraz; end up in boutique playrooms out the back.
  • Need-to-know: Single men only on special rostered nights—check before you rock up.
  • Find it: Also on the Australian Swingers Directory.

Saints & Sinners Ball (quarterly pop-up)

  • Vibe: 800-plus revellers in erotic fancy dress across an entire CBD nightclub. Burlesque shows, BDSM demos and plenty happening off the dance floor.
  • Need-to-know: Tickets vanish fast—set a reminder or miss out.
  • Find it: Details drop first via the Australian Swingers Directory.

What surprised me? The diversity. I chatted to tattooed tradies, a primary-school art teacher and one giggly grandmother. Everyone wipes down the leather after use; manners still count.

3. Sydney: Velvet Ropes & Three-Storey Playgrounds

Sydney lost some venues post-COVID, but the survivors more than deliver:

  • Our Secret Spot, Annandale – Three floors, BYO bar, voyeur room with a one-way mirror (excellent if you’re still warming up), plus a fully equipped dungeon. Friday is date-night luxe; Saturdays tilt wilder. Single gents must pre-apply—no randoms at the door. Australian Swingers Directory

  • Fun 4 Two, Rydalmere – Old-school swingers club with pool tables, a sex-swing and weekly newbie nights. No single men, so the gender balance stays couple-heavy. Australian Swingers Directory

Sydney pro tip: stash a couple of ASTROGLIDE X sachets in your clutch. The rooftop spa at OSS is great until the water washes regular lube away.

4. Queensland: Party Heat from Brisbane to the Gold Coast

Brisbane & Ipswich

  • Encounterz, Ipswich – Heritage warehouse turned party playground, open every Fri/Sat. BYO bar, theme nights, and cheaper entry once you join the club. Australian Swingers Directory

  • Taboo22, Loganholme – Six playrooms, a legit dungeon and a six-person spa. They hand out towels, condoms and—you guessed it—lube, though I still prefer my own ASTROGLIDE Gel for the extra cushion. Australian Swingers Directory

Gold Coast

  • Château Vino, Molendinar – Winner of “Best Adult Party in Australia” three years running. Nightclub dance floor, terrace for cool-downs, loads of play spaces. Strict cap on single guys Saturday; Friday is a bit more free-for-all. Australian Swingers Directory

Sun, salt and minimal clothing make silicone lube a life-saver up north—ASTROGLIDE X survived both pool water and a surprise rain shower on the smoking terrace.

5. Adelaide: The Quiet Achiever

South Aussies keep things discreet, but the scene is blooming:

Rabbit Hole Parties

  • Huge spa, outdoor play deck, legit dungeon. Three themed events most months.
  • Newcomers must attend a meet-and-greet first—a clever vetting step.
  • Find it on the Australian Swingers Directory.

Dee-Lights, Craigmore

  • Six playrooms, two spas and a Motorbunny machine that had one bloke grinning like he’d won Powerball.
  • Mixed-crowd parties roughly once a month, about $55 per person.
  • Listed via the Australian Swingers Directory.

Can’t match their dates? Locals swear by private Telegram groups and Adult Match Maker threads—worth a lurk.

6. Perth & WA: Small Scene, Big Energy

  • Club 103, Belmont – Open seven days, themed rooms upstairs, laid-back lounge below. Monday arvos are men-only; weekend nights pull in adventurous FIFO couples on R&R. Australian Swingers Directory

  • Infusions, Belmont – Invitation-only but worth the effort: BYO bar, dance cage, four playrooms and regular couples-only Saturdays. Pleasure Lounge events now run here, so the crowd skews a bit dress-up glam. Australian Swingers Directory

Distances are bigger out west—line up a rideshare or budget for that hotel room. You’ll thank yourself at 3 a.m.

7. Etiquette You Can’t Skip

  1. Consent is ongoing. A nod at 9 p.m. isn’t a blanket yes for midnight.

  2. Dress codes matter. Footy shorts scream “rookie”; clean lingerie or smart chinos do not.

  3. No means no (even mid-stroke). Stop, apologise, regroup.

  4. Clean up. Wipe the equipment, bin used condoms, keep fresh towels in rotation.

  5. Aftercare. Decompress with your partner: snacks, water, a laugh about the mirror you bumped into.

8. The Lube Low-Down (Real-Life Road Test)

ASTROGLIDE Liquid

  • Best for: Condoms, toys, quick oral.
  • Why I love it: Neutral taste, rinses off sheets in one wash.

ASTROGLIDE Gel

  • Best for: Long play, lots of roaming hands.
  • Why I love it: Thicker texture means it doesn’t disappear the moment someone changes position.

ASTROGLIDE X Silicone

  • Best for: Shower fun, pool parties, sweaty dance-floor hookups.
  • Why I love it: Stays slippery in water and humid rooms; a little goes a long way.

(All three survived the “12-hour suitcase” test—no sticky toiletries bag. Hallelujah.)

9. Planning Your Own Safari

  1. Choose a vibe, not just a postcode. Wine-bar intimacy? Spa retreat? Full-blown nightclub chaos?

  2. Book ahead. Most clubs cap numbers and pre-screen single gents.

  3. Sort your transport. One drink-driver ruins the party.

  4. Pack double the lube you think you’ll use. Trust me.

  5. Keep talking—before, during, after. Swinging won’t fix a wobbly relationship, but it can super-charge a solid one.

Ready to Glide?

Whether you dip a toe at a newbie night or cannon-ball into Saints & Sinners, make sure comfort keeps pace with curiosity. Grab the ASTROGLIDE that suits your adventure, set your boundaries, and dive into the most consensually chaotic fun you’ll have this year.

Browse the full ASTROGLIDE range and pick your wing-man for whatever (and whoever) comes next. 🚀💜

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